17 May 2026

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Russ Allbery: Review: Unwinding Anxiety

Review: Unwinding Anxiety, by Judson Brewer

Publisher: Avery
Copyright: 2021
ISBN: 0-593-33045-5
Format: Kindle
Pages: 268

Unwinding Anxiety is a non-fiction self-help book about how to reduce anxiety. The author is a board-certified psychiatrist specializing in addiction and substance abuse, who has subsequently done clinical and research (and commercial, more on that later) work in anxiety. His previous book, The Craving Mind, was a pop science treatment of addiction research. This book is more deliberately structured as a self-help guide.

(The cover will assure you that he has an M.D. and a Ph.D. I don't include honorifics and degrees in author listings as a small protest against the weird social rules about which degrees count and which don't.)

There are a lot of self-help books out there about anxiety. There are a lot fewer that say something relatively original. I think this is one of the latter, but I certainly have not done a survey of the subgenre, and it's possible the ideas here are only new to me. Brewer makes three basic claims in this book, all of which I found personally useful:

  1. Anxiety can be usefully analyzed as a habit. The rumination loop and other related anxiety behaviors such as excessive analysis, reassurance-seeking, and negative anticipation take the form of deeply ingrained habits triggered by stimuli.

  2. Raw willpower is not a useful way to break habits in general and anxiety habits in particular. In order to displace the habit, you have to retrain the part of your brain that runs habits on autopilot. Attempting to override it with willful effort is exhausting and likely to fail.

  3. Habit loops in general, and anxiety loops in particular, can be defused and replaced using mindfulness techniques.

This is not the way Brewer lays out the book. He goes to some effort to lead the reader slowly through three techniques for handling anxiety (for which he uses the metaphor of "gears," like for a bicycle or car) by introducing them one at a time and encouraging the reader to become thoroughly familiar with each one before moving on to the next. Since this is a book review, I'm going to give you the whole argument at once so that you know where this book is going. This may be less helpful in practice; if you're trying to use this technique on your own anxiety, you may want to read the book instead and not jump ahead.

Brewer's three gears are:

  1. Identify your habit loops and recognize when they're happening. (This part felt the most similar to traditional cognitive behavioral therapy to me.)

  2. Focus on how those habit loops make you feel. Rather than trying to force the habit loop to stop, let it happen but pay very close attention to the outcome and its effects on you.

  3. Find and focus on a different reaction that provides better rewards than the anxiety habit loop. Brewer suggests curiosity.

For me, the point where I thought "okay, you have my attention" is when Brewer described the way many people, particularly people without anxiety, tell people with anxiety to "just stop thinking about it" or "just do the thing you're anxious about anyway and you'll see it will be fine" and then described in detail why he believes that doesn't work. This is one of the few discussions of anxiety I've read where the author goes out of his way to stress that you cannot simply think your way out of anxiety and that repeatedly trying to do so and failing is exhausting and demoralizing.

Everyone is different and I know some people find cognitive behavioral therapy very helpful, but I find the constant effort to challenge cognitive distortions more draining and demoralizing than useful. His second gear, of not directly confronting the habit loop but instead watching its effect and thinking about its outcome, feels so much more approachable to me. Assuming, of course, it works.

Brewer's approach is essentially just mindfulness, although he mostly avoids the (to me at least) somewhat off-putting typical introduction to mindfulness via religious practice or general well-being and instead ties it to a theorized model of how habits work in the human brain. His contention is that habits, including anxiety, exist because at some point they provided a reward that was sufficiently compelling to make the habit-following part of your brain seek that reward. You were getting some benefit (a sense of control, a sense of being prepared, temporary reassurance, etc.) out of the anxiety reaction, which is why the anxiety habit formed in the first place. Once that habit is in place, it can continue without the reward. (Although in my experience there is probably still some short-term reward.)

Rather than trying to force yourself to stop following the habit, Brewer instead suggests letting the habit happen but then focusing (via mindfulness) on how following the habit makes you feel, whether it improves your sense of well-being or worsens it, and whether other actions produce different feelings. The goal, in other words, is to undermine the assumption of reward and to challenge any short-term reward with the long-term discomfort that made you want to stop being anxious.

This avoids using your conscious brain to exert direct willpower, which is exhausting and usually unsuccessful since the habit-following part of your brain is stronger (for various evolutionary psychology reasons he explains and that I found at least partly credible). Instead, you are using its strengths of observation and classification. You pay close attention to the ways in which the habit loop makes you feel bad, which in theory provides feedback to the habit-following part of your brain that can dislodge the habit. If the habit is recognized as no longer rewarding, it will weaken.

Brewer's background is in addiction treatment, so he is predisposed to see addiction in everything and one should probably be a bit cautious about his enthusiasm. He claims a great deal of success with this approach in clinical settings, mostly with addiction but also with anxiety, but this is always hard to verify. (Few doctors who write self-help books rigorously document their failures.) He apparently also has a company that produces various phone apps that assist with this technique. I'm rather cynical about anyone who talks about products their company has produced in self-help books of this type, and I'm also rather cynical about anyone who calls himself "Dr. Jud," but the book doesn't seem to be a sales pitch and there's no direct information in it about how to get the apps.

For me, the first two parts of the book were the most useful and the conception of anxiety reactions as habits made a surprising amount of intuitive sense. I thought the third part of the book, where he tries to describe a better in-the-moment reaction that you can try to build into a more beneficial habit, to be the weakest. It's mostly stock mindfulness advice that I've seen in other places, and you will be entirely unsurprised to learn that Brewer meditates and has studied meditation. I think it's clear that, for him, a feeling of curiosity works as an anxiety replacement; I'm not sure that's universal and I'm not sure it works for me.

That core idea that anxiety reactions are a type of addictive habit that have outlived their useful rewards but continue because habits are hard to change felt both useful and at least a little bit true, though. Your mileage may, of course, vary, but I've been trying out various ideas from this book since I first started reading it, and I think it's helping. If any of this clicks with you and you're also prone to anxiety, it might be worth a read.

One warning, though: Brewer's previous work on addiction includes binge eating, and while it's not a primary focus, he uses several weight loss and disordered eating examples and has a very traditional medical attitude towards weight. I'm somewhat dubious of the addiction model of weight gain in general, but more to the point, it's rather off-putting in a book supposedly about anxiety. It's something I was able to skim over, but be aware going in if you're likely to find this obnoxious.

I do think this book is a case of an addiction researcher seeing everything through the lens of addiction, and I'm a little dubious this is the right model for everyone's anxiety. But this is one of the good reasons why there are a lot of books about anxiety: Different approaches suit different people. This one made more sense to me than most; maybe you are similar.

I can't really recommend or not recommend a book like this, since I think so much will depend on whether you are one of the people for whom this specific explanation will click, but I'm glad that I read it and I think it's good to know that this model of anxiety exists.

Rating: 8 out of 10

17 May 2026 2:52am GMT

Otto Kekäläinen: Balancing persistence vs pivoting – is grit a virtue or wasteful?

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Being persistent, sticking to a plan and showing up to work every day is generally valued highly across all cultures as virtuous behavior. It is obvious that anything of value and worth achieving is also not easy, but requires significant and recurring effort. Learning a new language, winning a sports competition or building a successful business are all typical scenarios where grit plays a central role above everything else. However, sometimes the virtue of tenacity can result in just a waste of energy.

The question is then: how does one recognize that true progress is being blocked by stubbornness and a pivot would be the correct decision, as opposed to being close to breakthrough where doing more of the same would actually be the right choice?

What is persistence actually?

To think clearly about this topic, one must first grasp the concept of "grit" and what it looks like in practice. Research by psychologist Angela Duckworth on "grit" shows that sustained effort in the face of setbacks separates high achievers from those who quit too soon. Entrepreneurs who iterated through dozens of failed prototypes or writers who revised manuscripts for years understand this truth. Persistence builds resilience, deep expertise, and the kind of compounding results that shortcuts cannot deliver. It also protects against the distraction of shiny new ideas that pull focus from what actually works.

Persistence is about:

  1. Believing in an outcome and working towards it despite people around you not sharing the belief, and despite your own work and experiments not being successful.
  2. Continuing to hold the belief and sticking to the decision despite other ideas, solutions and competing alternatives surfacing.
  3. The more time passes, the firmer the conviction becomes. Time, money, and emotional energy invested in a failing direction create psychological pressure to continue (sunk-cost fallacy).

Simply following through on a plan or upholding a contract is not true persistence. Grit is a personal trait one can cultivate to actually become more energized to do something precisely because it turns out to be harder than expected.

Pivoting: a calculated choice

The opposite of being persistent is giving up. Pivoting is not about giving up, but about redirecting the energy and momentum towards a new goal. Pivoting requires coming to the realization that you were wrong, and going through the painful process of discovering a new truth.

Ideas tend to be abundant, and doing something new isn't hard as such. The hard part is to abandon a previously held belief and adopt a new one with equal conviction. To have that conviction you need to have data and metrics. This is also the key to how to decide between persisting vs pivoting at any moment in time.

Key metrics of success

Any decision is only as good as the information available at the time it was made. To be set up for success one needs to start by deciding on what the actual goal is, what one values and how progress is measured.

Key metrics are usually easiest to discover by working backwards from the goal. If you want to build an electric car, you might decide that the goal is to have a car that costs 30,000 euros and can drive 300 km on one charge. From that goal you can break down what the cost structure should be, what volume of production is needed to break even, what raw materials are needed and what the battery chemistry needs to achieve to meet the goal. That can further be broken down into a rate of progress. Suppose the plan requires battery energy density to reach 150 Wh/kg to be viable. If the state of the art starts at 100 Wh/kg and funding lasts a maximum of five years, the team needs at least an 8% improvement every year (1.08^5 × 100 Wh/kg ≈ 150 Wh/kg). This can then be used as a guideline. Sometimes progress is not steady, but happens in jumps. Even in those cases there should be a trajectory to benchmark the jumps against.

In an online business, the key metric could, for example, be one of these:

Weekly metrics are better than monthly, as they make the feedback loop faster and allow you to get validation quickly and do minor course corrections along the way. A complete pivot should, however, be based on long-term data, driven by the key metric and supported by additional data points.

Metrics are also needed because they can't be bribed or convinced to be anything other than what they are. Listening to other people is good, but just relying on the opinion of others is extremely dangerous because people are biased-either for you or against you-depending on whether they see you as a trusted leader or an outcast.

Key metrics are of course domain-specific and everyone needs to come up with their own. However, you must have some key metric. You can't have the excuse that what you are doing can't be measured. If you are part of a larger organization and you need to advocate for a difficult decision-for example, to "kill your darlings" when facing a pivot-you need to have the metrics to back up your views, and those metrics need to have been established way before as something the organization values, and not cherry-picked just for this one decision.

It does not matter if you are on a personal improvement journey, running a political campaign, inventing a new product, or growing a business - you need to have some metric you can check at any given time to see if things are improving fast enough to predict success. Metrics can and should also be used in daily work to validate that you are on the correct path, and to optimize execution.

Famous examples of persistence and pivoting that led to breakthroughs

In all of the cases below it is of course in hindsight easy to say they made the right decision. However, take a minute to try to imagine yourself in their shoes at the time of the decision. What metrics might they have had available to support their decision? What would you have wanted to measure or find out if you were in the same situation?

Insanity or conviction?

English has several proverbs that warn against excessive persistence, such as "banging your head against the wall". Insanity is commonly defined as "Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

In Finland, the national identity is practically built on the concept of "sisu". It means much more than just "grit". The word is derived from the word for "inside" or "guts" and represents an unexplained, almost superhuman force that makes one stoically take action despite seemingly impossible odds and somehow succeed anyway. It became a defining national mythos during the Winter War (1939-1940), where a force 10 times larger than the Finnish army tried to invade the country but was stopped and Finland just barely managed to keep its independence. The word "sisu" transitioned from a character trait to a pillar of national survival.

I think Finns survived because the more you believe in persistence, the more likely you are to persist. I view persistence as a religion that requires faith, while pivoting is a science where you derive the truth from the numbers.

When in doubt, I would always choose persistence over pivoting. Perhaps it is because of my genetic tendency towards having "sisu", but I would also rather keep on going a bit more and try one more time before giving up and pivoting in order to get more data, so that when I pivot, I know it is absolutely the right thing to do at that point.

Depending on the situation, the costs of postponing the pivot vary. Of course, if the main metric is the burn rate and a company is running out of money, a pivot must be done early enough that the remaining runway is enough to execute the pivot, and then some more.

In some situations a business idea might simply be ahead of its time. If that is the conviction and the key metrics support it, the best way to navigate the situation is to cut down on costs and wait for competitors to appear, help build general awareness, and then ramp up again to ride the wave. Remember that success does not come from grit alone - there is always an element of timing and luck as well. But if you are not persistent and stop showing up every day, you won't be able to seize the opportunities if and when they arise.

Failure is the likely outcome - you have to avoid it at any cost

One must also realize that most attempts end in failure. Failure is the baseline, and success is the exception. To reach a breakthrough, one must be stubbornly persistent. In particular, if you are a leader, you need to be so high in conviction that it almost becomes an aura that radiates to those around you.

Postponing the decision to pivot allows you to get a bit more data for the decision, so that once you pivot, you have full belief in the new direction. Once you pivot, there is no looking back, otherwise you will undermine morale and most certainly fail with the new thing as people will execute it with hesitation.

Failure is statistically always the more likely outcome. Most things end in failure and we never hear about them. If someone on your team does not believe in what you are doing, it is very easy for them to "prove" that something is a failure by spreading negativity, putting in less effort (perhaps unconsciously due to lack of conviction) and thus actually contributing to a self-fulfilling failure.

In most areas of life, ideas are cheap and the only thing that matters is execution. To be good at executing, you need to be good at making decisions. When drafting plans it is good to have alternatives and a lot of consideration. However, when execution starts, there is no room for doubt, otherwise the chances of success decrease.

Therefore, the best way of balancing persistence vs pivoting is to

  1. plan well ahead,
  2. establish the key metrics,
  3. have thresholds established for what would trigger a pivot, and
  4. do everything you can to move the metrics in the direction you want them to go.

Finally, if you decide to pivot, you must do so only with very high conviction, as you can't undo a pivot, and you should not be doing multiple pivots in a row either. If you are fully convinced yourself about the pivot, you will also be able to convince others about it, and carry the momentum.

17 May 2026 12:00am GMT

15 May 2026

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Antoine Beaupré: The Four Horsemen of the LLM Apocalypse

I have been battling Large Language Models (LLM1) for the past couple of weeks and have struggled to think about what it means and how to deal with its fallout.

Because the fight has come from many fronts, I've come to articulate this in terms of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.

Sound track: Metallica's The Four Horsemen, preferably downloaded from Napster around 2000, but now I guess you get it on YouTube.

War: bot armies

Let's start with War. We've been battling bot armies for control of our GitLab server for a while. Bots crawl virtually infinite endpoints on our Git repositories (as opposed to downloading an archive or shallow clone), including our fork of Firefox, Tor Browser, a massive repository.

At first, we've tried various methods: robots.txt, blocking user agents, and finally blocking entire networks. I wrote asncounter. It worked for a while.

But now, blocking entire networks doesn't work: they come back some other way, typically through shady proxy networks, which is kind of ironic considering we're essentially running the largest proxy network of the world.

Out of desperation, we've forced users to use cookies when visiting our site. We haven't deployed Anubis yet, as we worry that bots have broken Anubis anyways and that it does not really defend against a well-funded attacker, something which Pretix warned against in 2025 already.

(We have a whole discussion regarding those tools here.)

But even that, predictably, has failed. I suspect what we consider bots are now really agents. They run full web browsers, JavaScript included, so a feeble cookie is no match for the massive bot armies.

Side note on LLM "order of battle"

We often underestimate the size of that army. The cloud was huge even before LLMs, serving about two thirds of the web. Even larger swaths of clients like government and corporate databases have all moved to the cloud, in shared, but private infrastructure with massive spare capacity that is readily available to anyone who pays.

LLMs have made the problem worse by dramatically expanding the capacity of the "cloud". We now have data centers that defy imagination with millions of cores, petabytes of memory, exabytes of storage.

I thought that 25 gigabit residential internet in Switzerland could bring balance, but this is nothing compared to the scale of those data centers.

Those companies can launch thousands, if not millions of fully functional web browsers at our servers. Computing power or bandwidth are not a limitation for them, our primitive infrastructure is. No one but hyperscalers can deal with this kind of load, and I suspect that they are also struggling, as even Google is deploying extreme mechanisms in reCAPTCHA.

This is the largest attack on the internet since the Morris worm but while Robert Tappan Morris went to jail on a felony, LLM companies are celebrated as innovators and will soon be too big to fail.2

Which brings us to the second horsemen, famine.

Famine: shortages

All that computing power doesn't come out of thin air: it needs massive amounts of hardware, power, and cooling.

Earlier this year, I've heard from a colleague that their Dell supplier refused to even provide a quote before August. Dell!

In February, Western Digital's hard drive production for 2026 was already sold out. Hard drives essentially doubled in price within a year, and some have now tripled. A server quote we had in November has now quadrupled, going from 10 thousand to FORTY thousand dollars for a single server.

But regular folks are facing real-life shortages as well, as city-size data centers are being built at neck-breaking speed, stealing fresh water and energy from human beings to feed the war machine.

We've been scared of losing our jobs, but it seems that Apocalypse has yet to fully materialize. Regardless for engineers, the market feels tighter than it was a couple years ago, and everyone feels on edge that they will just have to learn to operate LLMs to keep their jobs.

Which brings us, of course, to Death.

Death: security and copyright

Our third horseman is one I did not expect a couple of months ago. Back at FOSDEM, curl's maintainer Daniel Stenberg famously complained about the poor quality of LLM-generated reports but then, a few months later, everyone is scrambling to deal with floods of good reports.

In the past two weeks, this culminated in a significant number of critical security issues across multiple projects. Chained together, remote code execution vulnerabilities in Nginx and Apache and two local privilege escalations in the Linux kernel (dirtyfrag and fragnesia) essentially gave anyone root access to any unpatched server to the web.

As I write this, another vulnerability dropped, which gives read access to any file to a local user, compromising TLS and SSH private keys.

All those vulnerabilities were released without any significant coordination while people scrambled to mitigate.

Many people including Linus Torvalds are now considering issues discovered through LLMs to be essentially public. This puts some debates about disclosure processes in perspective, to say the least.

But this is not merely the death of the traditional coordinated disclosure process, the C programming language, or the Linux kernel: remember that those bots are trained on a large corpus of copyrighted material. Facebook has trained their models on pirated books and Nvidia has done deals with Anna's Archive to secure access to large swaths of copyrighted material. The US Congress seems to think LLM outputs are not copyrightable, like any other machine outputs.

With many people now vibe coding their way out of learning or remembering how computers work, is this the Death of Copyright?

And that, of course, brings us to the final horseman: Pestilence.

Pestilence: slop

There is a growing meme that programming is essentially over as we know it. That you can simply vibe-code applications from scratch and it's pretty good.

Maybe that's true.

So far, most of my attempts at resolving any complex problem with a LLM have often failed with bizarre failures. Some worked surprisingly well. Maybe, of course, I am holding it wrong.

I personally don't believe LLMs will ever be good enough to produce and maintain software at scale. They're surprisingly good at finding security flaws right now. But what I see is also a lot of Bullshit, with a capital B. It's not lying: it does not "know" anything, so it can't lie. It's misleadingly cohesive and deliberate, but it lacks meaning, intent, will.

I have not been confronted with much slop, apart from the lobster Jesus or the yellow man atrocities, and particularly not in my work. But I see what it is doing to my profession: beyond vibe-coding, people are now token-maxxing, and land-grabbing their colleagues.

I don't like what LLMs do to our communities, or the fabric of software we live with.

Software does not evolve in a void. It is a team effort, be it free software or a corporate product. Generations of humans have carefully built the scaffolding of technology required for modern networks and software to operate, in a convoluted contraption that no single human fully understands anymore.

The idea of simply giving up on that understanding entirely and delegating it to an unproven model is not only chilling, it feels just plain stupid. Not stupid as in Skynet, stupid as in "I can't get inside the data center because the authentication system is down". Except we're in a "the power plant doesn't reboot" or "their LLM found an 0day in our slop" kind of stupid.

The fifth horsemen

Researching for this article, I looked up the four horsemen and found out they original seems to have been:

I was surprised. I grew up thinking about the horsemen being Famine, War, Pestilence, and Death. So I went back to my original source which actually claims the horsemen are:

Time has taken its toll on you, the lines that crack your face.
Famine, your body, it has torn through, withered in every place.
Pestilence for what you've had to endure, and what you have put others through
Death, deliverance for you, for sure, now there's nothing you can do

So I guess that makes no sense either, which, fair enough, I shouldn't rely on Metallica for theological references. Especially since that song was originally called Mechanix and was "about having sex at a gas station".

Anyways.

The point is, there are actually five horsemen, and the fifth one is, in my opinion, Conquest.

Those companies (and not "AI", mind you) are taking over the world. I sense a strong connection with the "post-truth" world imposed on us by fascists like Trump and Putin. It's not an accident, it's a power grab part of the Californian Ideology3. Just like Airbnb broke housing, Uber destroyed the transportation and Amazon is taking over retail and server hosting, LLM companies are essentially trying to take over if not everything, at least Cognition as a whole.

But the capitalization of those companies (OpenAI and Nvidia in particular) are so far beyond reason that their inevitable collapse will likely lead to a global financial collapse of biblical proportions.

Because they will inevitably fail like previous bubbles they are built on. And when they fail, I hope it zips all the way back through the blockchain scam, the ad surveillance system, and the dot com then git me back my internet.

The Tower of Babel

While I'm off in the woods hallucinating (ha!) on biblical allegories, I feel there's another sign that the apocalypse is coming.

The Tower of Babel myth says that humans tried to create a big tower up to heaven and become god. God confounds their speech and scatters the human race. End of utopia.

This is what is happening to our human translators now. LLMs being, after all, Language Models, they are excellent at translation work. So much that the only translators not replaced by LLMs right now are interpreters, who translate vocally in real time. But interpreters are worried about their jobs as well.

This concretely means we will lose the human capacity, as a civilization, to translate between each other. It is still an open question whether the remaining revision work will be enough for translators to avoid deskilling, but other research has shown that LLM use leads to cognitive decline, impacts critical thinking, and generally, that deskilling is a common outcome.

Ultimately, I think this is where LLMs bring us. Towards collapse.

So this is a call to arms. Fight back!

Poison bots. Build local real-world communities.

Go low tech. Moore's law is dead, make use of it.

Patch your shit. Go weird.

Refuse slop. Train your brain.

The horsemen will collapse, but let's not go down with them.

Butlerian Jihad!

This article was written without the use of a large language model and should not be used to train one.


  1. I prefer "LLM" to Artificial Intelligence, as I don't consider models to have "Intelligence" which goes far beyond the analytical traits we train models for. Intelligence requires embodiment and social interaction; machines lack the innate human skills of empathy, feeling and care, which explains a lot of the evils behind the current trends.
  2. It should be noted that Morris also happened to be one of the founder of Y Combinator where he is in good company with other techno-fascists like Peter Thiel, Sam Altman, and so on. Crime, after all, pays.
  3. Probably a good time to watch All Watched Over by Machines of Loving Grace.

15 May 2026 9:25pm GMT